Oak Owl Counselling
OK, but how does it work?
Counselling - and in particular person centred counselling - works pretty much as you might imagine. We meet for 50 minutes, you talk about what is on your mind, the counsellor listens and reflects back to you what they understand and what they are noticing about what you choose to share. The counsellor won't force you to talk about anything you don't want to. The counsellor will not judge you for anything you share. The counsellor will not divulge anything you share with anyone else. The counsellor will strive to understand what you choose to share from your point of view, and help you to make sense of it. The counsellor will be honest and genuine in their responses to you. And that's it.
Right - and how does that help?
There is a large amount of research out there about different kinds of counselling and how they benefit clients. However, what they all have in common is that the process of building a relationship with a counsellor who you trust is the foundation of therapeutic change. Through building that relationship you can change your relationship with yourself, and grow and move forward. It is for this reason that it is really important for you to listen to your instincts when you meet your counsellor, and ask yourself if you feel you can build trust with this person and whether you feel comfortable - if not, it is fine to choose not to continue with that counsellor.
Will I feel better straight away?
The honest answer is no, not necessarily, and usually it takes a number of sessions before you start to notice change. However many clients do feel relief initially at having made the decision to start the process, and have a sense of having made a first step to make a change or tackle a problem.
How long will I need to go to counselling?
This can vary from person to person, and there is no one answer to this. Some people come for a few weeks, some for months or even years. It depends on that individual's experience and how they want to use the therapy.
How much does it cost?
The normal fee per session ranges from £50 to £60 for individuals (50 minute session) and from £80 to £90 for couples (80 minute session), with lower fees available for daytime appointments on a Thursday or Friday. This is payable either in advance or on the day of the session, and can be paid for either in blocks of a month, or on a session by session basis. Payment can be taken by cash, card or bank transfer. Missed sessions are chargeable if they are cancelled less than 48 hours in advance.
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I'm not sure if counselling is the right thing for me...
The aim of counselling is to work in collaboration with a professional person to explore and discover together what is right for you. The counsellor is there to work with you in a supportive and genuine way to understand your experiences from your point of view, to help you move forward in the way that you choose and to provide a space that is safe, confidential and secure for you to take the time to do this. Counsellors don't have all the answers and don't give advice on what you should do - a counsellor cannot possibly know you better than you know yourself, but they do want to get to know you and discover with you who you are and who you want to become.
Does anyone need to know I'm having counselling?
No. Counselling is completely confidential: what is said in the counselling room stays between the counsellor and the client. During your assessment session the counsellor will ask you to provide contact details for your GP - this is only in case of emergency so that the counsellor could make contact if they are concerned for your safety. It is extremely rare that a counsellor would break confidentiality in this way, and would only be undertaken after discussion between the counsellor and the client.
For most people, counselling is a step into the unknown and it is natural to have questions, concerns or even worries about what counselling might be.
Here are some of the questions that come up for many people, but if you have others please do go to the Contact page and ask!
How often do I need to come to counselling?
Counselling usually takes place once a week, at the same time and place. It is most effective when sessions take place regularly.